I believe we meet people who are incredibly right, yet wholeheartedly wrong in every aspect to our wellbeing. We see a person who stands with greatness, an aptitude for infinite possibilities, and we believe our future is with them. We lust with force, an overbearing nature, even though the nature is sincere. We find ourselves buried within them in a moment’s time, but frightened to admit it. There we are, longing for this relationship, which was built from lust instead of little things that connected us.
We disregard our conscience telling us it’s wrong because our heart says it’s right. What we don’t realize is we always end up brokenhearted because we don’t see the actions that hold us. Our favorite scent soon becomes their hair, while theirs stays the same. We charge with a devotion so hardcore it turns into something we call love. But it’s not love – it’s still lust. He or she lies their hand atop of yours and suddenly it’s bliss, but not in a way of sexual desire. It’s bliss because it feels right; we sense an instant connection within each other. We gravitate towards one another on a higher plane than life itself. We don’t need objects, materialism, and people listening to our every move to show an inclination of our love. We see them as perfection and understand that everyone has flaws, but none are physical. That’s love.
Nowadays people use the Internet to show gratification towards themselves. Their lust is with the Internet and towards other people’s opinions than the relationship itself. People are in love with love and in love with themselves. Not with the other person in the relationship. The Internet is narcissism at its finest, which isn’t wrong, but it isn’t right.
The reason majority of this generation ends up brokenhearted is because they only understand lust. The narcissism of the Internet and the obsession with instant gratification. It comes off as a generalization, but with thought it rings true. Most are obsessed with want vs. need and fail to understand the difference between the two. We get wrapped in these thoughts of I’m in love when we’re not. We feel we need it when we only wanted it. This tendency of ours leaves us brokenhearted because we hold these warped notions of needing something we only ever wanted.
We don’t need love; we don’t need anything other than ourselves. When you find yourself, you find others. You find people within you and you’ll find them on a higher plane than love itself. When you find that, you find it. There’s no mention, no want, no need. It just exists and it exists between you two because it’s deep within anything you’ve ever understood.
That’s love.
words by dominic riccitello